This series is to hopefully inspire some slowness, setting time aside for things that are meaningful, feed the soul and fill hearts.I love having certain traditions throughout the year, special things we do for one another, with family and friends, things that I know are almost always a sure thing. I’ve decided to give myself and my family those things in our daily lives, it can be as easy as talking about our day at dinner, bedtime stories, or something challenging like unplugging for the weekend. These are all rituals, a detailed method faithfully or regularly followed, that ground us and bring us back to whats important. So with this series I am offering some ideas that have worked for us and am happy to pass them along in hopes that maybe you can find a few rituals for yourself or explore others on your own.
My mom is not a sentimental person, which has both its advantages + disadvantages, as a child I was always looking at my baby book which was never completely filled out, searching through photos that would some how give me an idea of where I came from, who I was and what I could eventually grow up to be. My mom didn’t keep much from my childhood to give me some insight of what kind of child I really was, I simply rely on her stories, photos and on the memories of my own. To this day I love to hear stories from my own family, as well as my in laws, about their history. Some of these stories I have heard time and time again but occasionally a new one will pop up that fills my heart with a sense of nostalgia for both me and my family. It gives me a sense of being and a feeling of connectedness, something that I take with me when I go about my day especially now that I am a mom. Every one has a story to tell, everyone wants to feel a sense of belonging.
In hopes of being able to give my girls ‘their’ stories I started journaling for both the moment I found out I was pregnant. Their journals are comprised of love letters, silly things that happen and short stories of major events of their lives. Both Dad and I write in these journals at least once a month, it gives us a space to cherish the moment that our girls are in and reminds us both pay attention to the little things. Lucy’s (who is older) journal also has an ever growing list of the remarkable things she says.
quote from 27/aug/2012:
(while on a mountain hike with mom)
“I take my time and take things in, you’re just worried about getting there. I like to touch and look at things and have collected these beautiful treasures. What do you have?”
Its little treasures like that that make taking a little time out in my evening to write them down in a special place worth the while. In order to maintain this ritual I am called to be present in the lives of these sweet humans; to be in the moment and to pay attention, even when my mind is all over the place. When I am ready to write, I prepare myself earlier in the day by taking out their books (as a reminder), in the evening I grab my favorite cup of tea and my favorite pen and once the girls are asleep I find a cozy spot in the house and start to write. When life is busy and full I jot things down on post-its and leave them at my desk (or in my date book) so that I won’t forget these moment when its time to journal.
I am seeing that Lucy is already loving to read her books over and over, laughing at the same stories and curious about others. She has even written and drawn a few things in her sister’s book. its quite a lovely little ritual.
To create this ritual for yourself start writing; your journal can be a simple list of likes and dislikes, what you notice your children excel in or just filled with things that your children say. Focus on what makes your child special and what brings joy to your heart, get lost in the magic that is your child. Pick a schedule that works for you and try your best to stick with it.